Tis the Season to Be . . . Self-Controlled


Tis the Season to Be . . . Self-Controlled

Galatians 6:5 “For we are each responsible for our own conduct.” (NLT)

‘Tis the season again – basketball season! It is ushered in by long practices, sweaty uniforms, buzzing clocks, and noisy crowds. I love sitting in the warm gymnasium (as opposed to the cold football stadium) and seeing the players and action up close. Being in a packed gym lends itself to participating in a much more intimate way. Yet there is something I don’t like!


The high contact sport of basketball has a tendency at times to produce high emotions. It seems like most teams have that player or two who can’t control his words or actions when a highly charged game ramps up to nail biting proportions. Human nature takes over and pinching, swearing, slamming, and shoving, when the ref isn’t looking, become the order of the day. The ripple effect of these actions easily spreads to the other players and even into the stands.
I have experienced this riptide of emotions on more than one occasion. Suddenly, all the things I don’t like about myself come charging to the surface and threaten to spill out in screams of anger. I have heard fans deride an “incompetent ref who needs to learn how to use his whistle.” I have seen parents scream at other parents, coaches scream at players, players curse the opposition, and referees hollering up into the stands. I have seen it all and experienced the venom of retaliation bubble in my veins.
In the aftermath of a tense game it is easy to condone our actions by blaming the others who invoked it. The ref’s stupid call is why I lost control of my temper or the angry parent booing my child’s ability to play the game is why I told her off. The other player pinched me in an inappropriate place when the ref wasn’t looking is why I decked him and used that four-letter word.
Though it may be the passion of the moment that stirs up unwanted feelings, these excuses will never fly with God. Each player, coach, & fan are responsible for controlling his own response. “Pay careful attention to your own work, for then you will get the satisfaction of a job well done, and you won’t need to compare yourself to anyone else. For we are each responsible for our own conduct.”
Though control may be hard in the heat of the moment, never forget to Whom you belong and act in a way that is worthy of your Savior, Jesus Christ. Tis the season to keep careful watch on your responses – during the basketball season and at all times.  You will like yourself so much better, but more importantly God will be pleased.




  1. Beth Willis Miller on April 2, 2015 at 10:41 PM

    Such great advice…imagining Jesus in the bleachers with us ❤️

  2. Suzie Eller on April 3, 2015 at 2:08 PM

    I remember sitting on the sidelines watching my kids play and hearing parents lose it at their kids because they didn't make a basket, or they weren't hustling enough. I'd see the kids sweating, muscles tensed, trying to listen to the coach and their parent. I'd wonder about the parent who was sitting, no sweat at all, not in the game, and wondered if they realized how little this would mean one day. It was a game. Just a game. I love how you tied in the "no excuse" with this theme. I certainly have had other areas where I need self-control, but this is an area where we can all learn as parents. Thanks!

  3. Kristine Brown MTY on April 5, 2015 at 11:28 AM

    Oh my goodness, so true. Sometimes watching my son's little league games was downright painful. Something that was supposed to be fun caused so much stress! This is great advice for parents. Addressing this topic with our kids is critical, so they can understand how God teaches us to respond as Christ-followers. Thank you for this post:)

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